Can his words and actions weather the storm?
Place your trust in Allah, but tie your camel. - Prophet Muhammed saw
What a beautiful day
You finally meet someone you seem to have so much in common with. You talk for hours on the phone. It was just a matter of time. He proposes to you! What a beautiful day! - But wait ... you don't really know the guy, do you?
Verifying vs trust
You should believe what he tells you, right? I mean we are all Muslims and we love our religion and we want to live according to Quran and Sunnah, right? - Wrong! A liar lies, a thief steals and an oppressor oppresses.
THE HONEYMOON
Like so many converts the honeymoon will come BEFORE the wedding. If the brother even gives you one at all. Why? - to prevent shaitan from causing mischief or because talking to the opposite sex is "harram". Quickly we must get married! Rush to bed and let's seal the deal!
HAPPILY EVER AFTER
But who cares about the minor pet peeves. We don't want to be too demanding. Yes, he should have introduced you to his family by now. Yes, he should be paying the bills by now. Yes, nothing has changed on his part only on YOURS! - "rollingmyeyes"
MEET YOUR HUSBAND
Finally you have awoken from your coma. And reality does not seem as promised. How is it your fault that you can't seem to satisfy all his demands? You try and try and nothing seems to fill his stomach?- His solution = to mistreat you and the kids? - For YOUR own benefit of course!